Our blog cruise topic for this week is “taking care of the homeschool teacher”. Wow…really?? You mean that on top of teaching, shopping, cooking and running my household I’m supposed to make time for me too?? But there are only 24 hours in a day!!! How can I possibly find time for everything and make time for myself??
Let’s face it, as homeschool moms, this is a conundrum we all face!! We carry so much responsiblity, and a lot of the time, what we sacrifice most in all of this is ourselves. Is it worth it?? Absolutely!! But, I have found out the hard way, that a mommy who doesn’t take a breather every now and then often becomes a cranky, impatient, short tempered woman!! So, with that in mind, I try to make a habit of snatching a few moments to myself every now and then where I can rest, relax, and recharge.
I find that the most important part of this for me is dragging myself out of bed early in the morning, so I can have few hours alone before our day gets started. What do I do with this time?? Well, first, I make some coffee, and then I spend some time reading my Bible and in prayer. This is by far the most important time of my day. If I get lazy one morning, and decide to sleep in instead, I always regret it!! Every year I choose a new bible reading plan from one that I find online. I like to spend my mornings working on my reading for the day, and just spending time with the Lord. I find this always makes my day go better, because when I am done, I feel my spirit is truly refreshed.
Usually after this time, I will watch the news, and play on the computer for a bit before I make breakfast. I like to use this computer time as “downtime” where I simply look up some new recipes on Pinterest, or play Song Pop on facebook. Is this wasteful?? Possibly, but I find that a little bit of “pure entertainment” puts me in a better mood, as I will spend the rest of the day wrapped up in homeschooling and chores!!
I am lucky to have some really good Christian girlfriends too, and once a month or so, we get together for a game or “chick flick” night and leave the kids with our husbands! A little wine, some laughter and “girl talk” and I feel so much better. I am fortunate to have many friends with kids the same age as mine, and we are all in that place where we face a lot of the same struggles and challenges, so we can use this time to encourage each other and build each other up. It really makes a difference for me!!
My best friend is a hair stylist, and she does my hair for free every two months or so as well. On those days, my hubby has a “daddy and boys day” with the kids, and I go see my friend and she does my hair and we usually have lunch. This works out really well for my kids and me. They get some one on one time with daddy (who works a WHOLE lot so I can stay home with the kids) and I get a little downtime with my bestie. She is usually the one I express my frustrations to, and she is always there to help me look at the big picture, and remind me that none of us is perfect, but we the important thing is to be faithful to the call that God has put on our lives.
Of course, one of my favorite ways to unwind is a good book, and some chocolate. No, I’m not talking a “learning” book here..I read a lot of books on homeschooling and being a Chrisitan wife and mom, but some days, I just want to read for entertainment!! If I have a night where my husband has taken my boys out to do something, you will find me in my favorite chair, with a glass of Moscato, a dark chocolate bar, and something off the best seller list. I recently read Defending Jacob (which was really good) and Abe Lincoln, Vampire Slayer (which I enjoyed as well!!).
The funny thing is, during my downtime, I find myself reflecting on this life that God has given to me. And even though there are hectic and difficult days, I just know that there isn’t anywhere else I need to be. I have to say, I am not a big believer in the idea that I have to have “me time” every day….I became a mom so I could be with my kids, and I want to enjoy them as much as possible before they grow up and go on to live their own lives. However, I find that a few moments here and there, help me to refocus on what is most important in my life, and help me to appreciate those times I have with my family all the more! How do you make time for yourself in the midst of your busy schedule? Leave me a comment and let me know!
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